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Lending a Hand to Make a Difference
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Attracting your Soul Mate and
More, Much, Much More
By Laura Silva Quesada
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Some years ago, I invited a long-time friend who had gone through a difficult
divorce out to dinner. I wanted to treat her to a very nice restaurant in hopes
of lifting her spirits. I pick her up right after work, which meant I was still
all dressed up in my work clothes. To my surprise, when I arrived at her home,
she was wearing a tied-dyed T-shirt, leggings and a pair of old tennis shoes.
Her hair was a bit unruly and needed combing. It was obvious that she had been
going through a bit of depression. I figured it was not my place to comment on
her attire and that maybe she simply wanted to feel comfortable. We got into my
car and drove towards the restaurant. When we arrived, the after-work crowd had
poured into the restaurant and we were asked to wait for our table at the bar.
The bar was filled with business people who wanted to enjoy happy hour. Many of
them were men and many of them were acquaintances of mine. Several of these
professional men, handsomely dressed in their fine business suits, came up to
me with lively greetings such as, "Hi, I haven't seen you in a while. Let's get
together and have dinner one of these evenings."
With every greeting, my friend looked more and more depressed. Finally, she
blurts out, "Every one of these men have gone up to only you. None of them have
approached me or have even looked my way." I looked at her and asked her, in a
very serious way, "Are these the kind of men you are hoping to meet? She then
replied, "Yes, it would be very nice to meet and have a serious relationship
with a man who is a professional, has a great job, dresses great and is
handsome? At that point I told her the following story:
According to an old Sufi tale, a man by the name of Nasruddin and his friend
were sitting in a cafe drinking tea and talking about life and love. At one
point during their conversation, the friend asks,
"How come you never got married, Nasruddin?"
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In This Issue
Attracting Your Perfect Partner
Success Story
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"Well," said Nasruddin, "to tell you the truth, I spent my youth looking for
the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, with eyes
like dark olives, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a
wonderful and generous soul, but we had no interests in common. One woman after
another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing.
Then, one day, I met her. She was beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We
had everything in common. In fact she was perfect.
"Well," said Nasruddin's friend, "what happened? Why didn't you marry her?"
Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. "Well," he replied, "it's a sad thing.
Seems she was looking for the perfect man."
My response to her in the form of the above story must have sunk in because in
the weeks that follow my friend went on a quest to reduce a good amount of
weight, resolve many of her emotional issues, work on a financial strategy that
would help her get out of debt, started an exercise program and put more
attention to her appearance. Within a year, she met a very nice accountant and
they were married a year after that. That was almost fifteen years ago and they
are still happily married.
Likes attract. A negative, depressed, pessimistic, untidy, emotionally
challenged person will more than likely attract a mirror reflection of
him/herself. Too often, people believe they can hide their "defects" forever
from a Mr. or Ms. Perfect who is going to relieve them of their miseries,
instead of working on every aspect of themselves to the point that they are
happy with who and how they are fully and completely.
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"He is greatest whose strength
carries up the most hearts by the attraction of his own."
-- Henry Ward Beecher
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We often want our idea of the perfect partner to enter our lives and stay
forever, yet we are not willing to do what it takes to be the "perfect" partner
for someone else. We can prevent ourselves from painful experiences as well as
the loss of precious time and energy if we begin by first working on ourselves.
Take some time to evaluate what you believe are the negative aspects of
yourself and your life. Areas about yourself and your life where you lack love,
respect and admiration? Take them one at a time, write them down and then write
down a more positive outcome for each area and use that as a goal to manifest.
The following are areas you may want to evaluate:
Health - Do what you can to improve every aspect of your health. Improve your
nutrition; begin an exercise program, and stop smoking and excessive drinking.
Consult your health caretaker as soon as you feel the need. Without your health
you have little means to enjoy all the goodness life has to offer, and that
includes your perfect partner.
Weight - Find a good nutritional plan and reach your ideal weight for maximum
health. There are many efficient methods for reducing. Work with your health
caretaker and find the right one for you.
Family issues - Approach family members you may have unresolved issues with and
search for the best way to resolve those issues. Work on this until you find
genuine comfort in your heart and soul.
Career - Improve your talents and skills so as to improve the quality of your
work, your value in the work place, your chances of getting promotions and pay
increases and secure your career.
Finances - Tighten the belt if necessary and work on a plan to be debt free and
financially comfortable.
Emotional issues - Look for the root of your emotional woes, and seek help if
necessary in order to understand and overcome them. You do not need to do this
alone. Get some support or find a good therapist if necessary.
Attitudes - Having a positive attitude over a negative attitude will result in
more positive outcomes and relationships. Be a realistic optimist! With nearly
six billion people on this planet, there has got to be many people that would
qualify as perfect partners. You only need to attract one of them.
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder,
and familiarity breeds contempt. According to this my soul mate should be in
Thailand.
-- Jason Zebehazy
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Beliefs - Beliefs are statements you make to yourself about everything in your
living experience. Do your beliefs bring more of what you desire into your life
or do they keep them out of reach. The belief "I'm unlovable" or "I'll never
find my perfect mate" will not help you achieve that outcome. Your thoughts
(Beliefs are expressed in your thoughts) precede physical manifestation. Modify
your beliefs by simply changing them to something more positive, and repeat
your new belief over and over until you come to own it.
Habits - There are good habits and there are bad habits. Work on eliminating
your bad habits or modifying them a little at a time so that they no longer
have a negative effect on you and your future plans with your partner.
Self-esteem - You are a sum total of all your past experiences. Some
experiences lifted your self-esteem and others dampened it. Address and deal
with old issues; develop your talents, practice standing up for who you are and
what you believe in, and set clear boundaries for yourself and those you deal
with.
General appearance - There may be some aspects of your general appearance that
can improve with a little change here and there. Seek some professional advice
if you believe it will help. Makeovers can be a lot of fun.
The idea is to put some conscious effort in becoming the best you that you can
be. A "you" that you come to love, admire and respect. A "you" that instead of
being a "broken present", is a wonderful, attractive, healthy and desirable
gift to give to your perfect partner, the love of your life. When you transform
yourself into the "you" that you love, admire and respect, you lose the "part"
of you that is needy and often has a repulsive effect on those you have
relationships with. That needy part of you is instead transformed into a
genuine desire for sharing your life with your perfect partner. A desire to
live in a relationship with someone as wonderful as you, where the outcome of
the two of you coming together is two people who are even better and more
complete because of your union.
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"Perfect love is rare indeed - for to
be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very
wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the
understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of
the scholar and the fortitude of the certain."
-- Leo Buscaglia
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Once you feel you have reached a good place, a place that can only get better
through time (Since you have come to learn how to think, believe, and behave in
ways resulting in enough evidence to know you are on the right path), then it
is time to begin your mental programming and broadcasting.
At night, before going to sleep, enter a deep meditative state and initiate
your programming by broadcasting the following thought (Or something similar)
in a universal manner:
"I am going to begin programming to attract my perfect partner. I am
hoping to meet him/her within (State anywhere from 1 - 6 months.
Give your partner enough time to find you. They may be half way around the
world). I am healthy in spirit, mind, body and emotions and I am ready
and eager to meet him/her. I promise to be fully committed to our relationship
and be a perfect partner as well."
(For those who believe in God, Higher Intelligence, or a Higher Power
then add the following)
"I am requesting your assistance in finding my perfect partner for you
know exactly who he/she is. Thank you for your help."
Then, simply go to sleep from there. The following night, again enter a deep
meditation and mentally say to yourself the following:
"I will awaken when my perfect partner is most receptive for me to make
contact with him/her."
Then, simply go to sleep from there. Sometime during the night or in the
morning, you will awaken. When you do, take it for granted that it is time to
make contact with your perfect partner. Again enter a deep meditative state and
mentally say:
"I am going to count from 10 - 1. By the time I reach the count of one, I
will have attuned myself to my perfect partner."
As you count on a descending scale toward 1. Imagine zoning in on your perfect
partner. Once you reach the count of 1, take a deep breath and introduce
yourself to him/her. Tell your partner everything about you, your family,
interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes, etc. Tell him/her how great your life
is and how much you are looking forward to meeting him/her. Talk of daily
happenings as if you were face to face with your perfect partner. Make sure you
also let your perfect partner know where you like to hang out, work, shop, or
eat. This will help attract him/her to one of those places so that you can
meet. You may also want to select a special event for your initial meeting. Do
this programming every third night.
Good Luck!
(This type of programming can be modified to attract the perfect business
partner, employee, client, nanny, etc)
Allow yourself to remain open to possibilities and let us know when you meet
your perfect partner.
NOTE: With this application it is not important to make a list
of the qualities and characteristics you desire in your perfect partner. Your
own higher intelligence or self "knows" what perfect means. In addition, for
those who believe in God, or a Higher Power, then the belief is that God knows
all including who your perfect partner is.
A Great Success Story on
Attracting a Perfect Partner
By Jack Chafin, MindBiz CEO
In 1989 I met Laura at an Ultra Seminar she was giving in Boston. We were both
divorced and single at the time and at a break we discussed techniques to
attract a perfect mate. Laura shared with me the technique outlined in the
above article to attract a perfect partner. As a good practitioner of Mind
techniques, I put it to use that evening.
I began broadcasting to the Universal Mind my intent to attract and meet the
perfect mate following the procedure in the article. That evening I awoke about
2:30 in the morning and projected my intent again to meet a perfect partner and
enter a loving relationship.
Beginning the next morning and for about two weeks, my mind kept flashing to a
young woman I had met six months earlier. Her name and image continually came
to mind. After two weeks, I came up with an excuse to call her and we quickly
connected and married two years later. This young lady is my lovely wife,
Janice.
Laura has her own wonderful story of attracting her husband, Mel, using this
technique. In both of our cases we connected with people we had already met,
but needed help from the Universe to make the attraction complete. In my case I
did get much, much more as a result. Janice and I now enjoy our life together
and work as business partners with Laura at MindBiz and also are blessed with
seven children and nine grandchildren.
Laura has given you a wonderful technique to attract a perfect mate. It works!
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